Growing Pains

How much is too much to expect of other people? Do I expect too much of other people? So what if my expectations for other people are higher than most people have for each other and for themselves? Maybe it’s not even that I expect too much of people, but my standards for friendships and relationships are higher than most people’s my age so in comparison they seem high. No, actually no I don’t think I expect too much. I’m pretty sure it is just that a lot of people have lower standards and let their friends get away with treating them like crap because they probably treat other people like that too. Does that mean I have to settle for being treated crappily just because everybody else seems to do it too? I don’t think so..

How hard is it to call someone back? Maybe if I called you twice a day, every single day, I could understand being pissed at me if I complained that you never answered or replied. Buuut…maybe one call in a couple of months? That’s really not so often.. 

I really think people are like this because they are lazy, not because they don’t care. I think people care a lot, and about a lot of things, but when it comes to actually doing something about what they believe in it is hard for them to be motivated. It’s all about effort..how much effort you want to put into maintaining a relationship. Personally, if for 8 months of the year I see someone every other day, talk to them just about every day, and they consider me a good, close friend, then them dropping off the map for a 4 month period would frustrate me. Not that I want to talk to them every day, or every week, or necessarily even every month. But just once or twice over that 4 month period seems at the very least reasonable,  maybe even a little infrequent. So if I call a few times and they never answer, and we set up times to video chat but they bail every time I’m not going to make the effort anymore, cus I don’t want to a) be annoying and bug them and b) try to make someone be my friend if they don’t seem to want to talk to me. 

So that’s all I’m sayin…just try a little harder people. (And I will too! Cus I don’t hold myself exempt from that statement either! :)